Also the natural sexual functions of establishing an intimate human contact frequently assume greater proportions. This is a well known fact about detached people for whom sexuality may be the only bridge to others, but it is not restricted to being an obvious substitute for human closeness. It shows also in the haste with which people may rush into sexual relations, without giving themselves a chance to find out whether they have anything in common or a chance to develop a liking and understanding. It is possible of course that an emotional relatedness may evolve later on. But more often than not it does not do so because usually the initial rush itself is a sign of their being too inhibited to develop a good human relationship. Karen Horney
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A sexless marriage may be the result of sexless parents. And, a lack of intimacy can come from a lack of sexual intimacy in childhood. If you were not allowed to touch or be touched as a child, you may have trouble developing the ability to touch another person as an adult. This can lead to problems in your marriage, your friendships and even your success at work.

When you are not allowed to express your true self, you become less likely to express that side of yourself when you are with someone else. It is important that children who are raised by people who do not show physical affection learn how to feel loved and comforted by their parents. If they cannot learn this early on, they may never learn to accept love and comfort from their mates.

Source: Neurosis And Human Growth: The Struggle Towards Selfrealization

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